Pausitivity: Take a Moment to Nurture Yourself

Pausitivity [pôz-i-tiv-i-tee] noun The feeling of joy and optimism that comes when you stop to take a moment to restore and nurture yourself.

Pausitivity begins with this simple, yet profound definition to its creative sniglet. Written and complied by M. H. Clark, the small book is filled with calm inspiration and soothing watercolor illustrations depicting nature. It emanates a peaceful sense of potential through several powerful quotes and words of wisdom, paired with beautifully running colors and a subtle gorgeousness.

Pausitivity would serve as a lovely gift for anyone who could benefit from the beautiful calm and joy that comes from taking a moment out of their busy lives to appreciate the small things and achieve balance. The book is also perfect for keeping on a desk or nightstand as a daily reminder to quiet your mind, open your heart, find happiness, and carry peace within your own life.

…be silent..and the beauty explodes, reaches to you from all directions. You are drowned in the beauty of a sunrise, of a starry night, of beautiful trees. -Osho

I received a complimentary copy of this book in exchange for my honest opinion. 

Ordinary Heroes

It’s funny how every time someone challenges your beliefs, comes out with something new and freeing, something that shows alternative ways to become healthy, alternative ways of energy, ways that you can have your own abilities that you had not seen, how different life can be, tells you a scary truth that is happening, show ways that your life could be a paradise, or anything else that would cause the people at the top to lose trillions of dollars….. They are immediately labelled crazy, mysteriously debunked, they BECOME crazy, called a scam, or killed.

That can’t last forever if enough heroes do some inner work, learn something real, show up and speak at the same time.

- Kyle Cease

A New Perspective

My cats loved being held. Owen will purr contentedly as his eyes shift from the paintings, to the cabinets, to the gnat flying by. Sebastian will extend his neck as far as possible, in hopes of seeing what new sights and adventures lie just around the corner. A five foot elevation provides an entirely new perspective, a new way of seeing and experiencing the world. It’s no wonder cats enjoy leaping and climbing so much.

I'm apparently not allowed to mention my cats without an accompanying picture.

Children loved being held by their mothers and propped up on their father’s should. Already in awe of the world around them, being raised just a tad bit higher than their everyday experience is always unbelievably exciting.

It’s easy to forget how easy the attainment of some new perspective can be. You don’t need to physically move in order to gain new insight or a new vision, although climbing a mountain or flying over your hometown are both spectacular experiences. Reading a book, spending time in nature, observing strangers interact from a distance, having a meaningful conversation, and enjoying each individual moment to the fullest can have the same effect.

The weather has been incredible the past few weeks – sunny with highs in the mid-70s and a light breeze. There’s something about Spring that always makes me feel so much more alert, aware, and alive. The colorful flowers and their wafting scents, the bright sun pouring in through my open moon roof, the lively green leaves fluttering in the wind, the birds and the dogs and the children enjoying a day at the park. I love it all.

Reading a new book has the same power. Although I enjoy nearly all genres, light young-adult reads leave me less thoughtful, and deeper and research-heavy books drain me. Diverging from John Green and Robert Wright, I just finished reading a book on spirituality, meaning, and inspiration, Way of the Peaceful Warrior, which has altered my perspective more than anything else, in recent times. (I would highly recommend it to everyone, and will review it here in the next few days.) I’ve been in a weird funk for the past month or so, as if disconnected from everyone and caught in some perpetual existential crisis, getting too caught up in my own thoughts to step back and see how beautiful and humorous life truly is.

Getting lost in an inspirational story, laden with guidance, insight, and advice for life is the ultimate pick-up for me, the greatest escape. Despite knowing how to live a happy and fulfilling life, and tapping into all the facts I’ve learned in books, psychology courses, and from mentors, it’s not always as easy to habitually apply that knowledge to your own life. A refresher course here and there, whether it be through a mind-numbing conversation or amazing story, is often the perfect remedy for lethargy, loneliness, or hopelessness. Often times, all we need is a kick in the behind, a small reminder that we’re not alone in this world, that beauty exists right below our noses, and that there is some ultimate purpose beyond our comprehension.

Sometimes, all we need is a new perspective to realize how wondrous life really is.

Reading at the park. Win-win.

It’s Never Too Late to Discover Your Passion

Around age 30, my aunt and her friend took up running. I recently attended a few yoga classes with a woman who started the practice at age 40. One of my grandfather’s friends decided to try his hand at acting and directing plays shortly after retirement. There’s a charming documentary, Young at Heart, about a chorus of senior citizens (with an average age of 81) who perform covers of Coldplay, Sonic Youth, and other modern-day bands.

What do these people have in common?

Each of these individuals is fervently passionate about what they do. Each of these individuals excels at what they do. And each of these individuals discovered and pursued their passion later in life.

At age 22, sometimes I wonder what it is I really should be doing. What is my passion and how can I shape my life around that passion? How can I make a living doing what I love? Occasionally I worry that I’ll never find my niche, that my current state of ”not knowing” is causing me to miss valuable opportunities.

But then I stop, take a step back, and look at the bigger picture. I remember those who spent a good portion of their lifetime searching and are still happy with the outcome. I think of those who didn’t even start looking until half their life had passed them by, yet are still happy where they are. Maybe what they say about life being a journey is true.

I feel as if I’m stumbling along, one slow and faltering step at a time. But is that really a bad thing? Do I really want to scale the mountain in a day, reach the finish line overnight?

No. No I really don’t.

Besides, I think that fact that I’m actually working to achieve my small goals, keeping an open mind, and welcoming new opportunities puts me a foot ahead in the game. The fact that I’m insatiably curious about my full potential doesn’t hurt either.

I admire those who, after years of uncertainty and disappointment, were courageous enough to keep searching for what makes them come alive. I admire those who have made sacrifices and faced criticism to reach their dreams. And I admire those who have served as an inspiration to myself and others.

It’s never too late to pursue your interests. It’s never too late to discover your passion.

Did you discover or finally pursue one of your interests later in life?


Inspiration, Potential, and a New Friend

My parents always told me not to talk to strangers. I think every level-headed parent teaches their child to be careful. Yet, for me, this instilled a sense of fear rather than caution. I hardly talked to anyone when I was younger, and this continued well into early adulthood.

However, over the past few years my desire and ability to talk to strangers has increased exponentially. My philosophy has changed a bit; caution is important, yet interpersonal interactions are one of the best ways to learn something new, to gain a new perspective. Talking to someone new is challenging for me and most conversations involve a lot of awkward silence, but they are often worth the effort if I simply take that first step.

I’ve continually refered to my blogging circle as my friends, my motivation, my inspiration. I feel as if we’re all part of this elite group who simply know that each person is a vessel of potential; we’re part of this special group who incessantly pursue their dreams, who love learning new things and acquiring wisdom. I think it would be an absolutely phenomenal experience if I could sit down in a room with all of you, with each of you individually and talk about life, dreams, and wisdom.

The other day, that dream came true for me, on a smaller scale. For the first time, I met one of my blogging buddies in person. Chris is an incredible person with an inspirational passion; Chris is a guy who is turning his dreams into a reality. Over the course of the next year, he’ll be traveling all over the Americas – visiting 35 countries, capturing 35 portraits, and sharing 35 stories. I highly suggest following his journey at Dream to Reality! When he said he’d be in town and suggested we meet, I couldn’t say no.

We went back and forth referencing our favorite TED talks and blog posts by Chris Guillebeau and Tina Su, sharing our experiences and philosophies on life, talking about our dreams and lessons we’ve learned. We covered spirituality, politics, the educational system, relationships, society, and every other topic you aren’t supposed to talk about. I felt as if I were having a conversation with an alternate version of myself. We climbed Camelback Mountain and as we watched the sun set and the moon rise, we discussed the effect of social comparisons, our hesitations, and our dreams. It was nothing short of incredible.

A few days later, I read that twenty-three year-old Nate Damm just completed his walk across America. This serves as yet another awe-inspiring example of the fruits of  perseverance and the rewards for following your heart. How can anyone read these types of stories and not feel driven to action?

I tend to keep to myself, but hearing about experiences has inspired me to 1) make an effort to meet more like-minded people in real life because they do exist and 2) fearlessly pursue my own dreams and passions. It will take faith, courage, and tenacity; it will involve defying conventions and facing resistance; yet seeing just one or two other people passionately chase after their dreams is all the inspiration I need.

Rather than standing back and looking on in awe as others achieve their dreams, I need to join them. Each of us is extraordinary; each of us has so much potential. As children we’re told that the sky is the limit and anything is possible; as adults, I think we need to be reminded that we can do anything we put our minds to, that life is our canvas and our legacy.

Value

A well known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill.

In the room of 200, he asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?”

Hands started going up.

He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you – but first, let me do this.”

He proceeded to crumple the 20 dollar note up.

He then asked,“Who still wants it?”

Still the hands were up in the air.

“Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?”

He dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe.

He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. “Now, who still wants it?”

Still the hands went into the air.

“My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless; but no matter what happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who love you. The worth of our lives comes, not in what we do or who we know, but by who we are. You are special – don’t ever forget it.”

-Author Unknown